Distinctionary
A list of distinctions you'll run into on this site that are part of my world.
- 5 bodies
- A way of mapping a human being used throughout this work: physical (your body), intellectual (your mind, your stories), emotional (anger, sadness, fear, joy), energetic (space, time, closeness, distance), and archetypal (the larger role or mode you're operating from).
- Discovery call
- A short, no-cost first conversation to figure out where you're at and whether working together further makes sense. Not a sales pitch, an actual look.
- Edgeworker
- Someone actively working at the edge of their own comfort, on purpose, as a practice, rather than avoiding it.
- EHP (Emotional Healing Process)
- A deeper, usually one-on-one process that takes an old, stored emotion and finishes what didn't get to finish the first time. Comes after BINS, not instead of it.
- Feedback and coaching
- Feedback is someone reflecting back what they actually see or hear in your work, without softening it. Coaching is working with you on what to do about it. On the Make Your Website one-off call, you get both: an honest read on what you've built, and a plan for what's next.
- Feeling vs. emotion
- A feeling is for handling what's happening right now. It lasts a few minutes and you use it to decide, connect, or set a boundary. An emotion is a feeling from the past that never got expressed. It gets stored in the body and can last a lifetime.
- Gameworld
- A reality you're actively building on purpose: the rules, the community, and the story you're playing inside, instead of the one you inherited by default.
- Non-material value
- What you offer that isn't a product you can ship: presence, attention, a held space, a way of seeing. Real value, just not the kind that fits in a box.
- Possibility Management
- The body of tools, distinctions, and practices this site's work is built on, developed by Clinton Callahan and others. I didn't invent any of it. I've trained in it for years and I use it to hold space for people.
- Possibility team
- A small group that meets regularly to practice these tools together, hold space for each other, and work on something real.
- Sliding scale
- You name a price within the listed range based on what you can actually pay right now. No explanation required, no means-testing.
- Spaceholder
- Someone trained to hold a room, a session, or a process steady while someone else moves through something hard. Not a therapist, not a guru. A steady presence.
- The 4 feelings map
- Anger, Sadness, Fear, Joy. Mad, Glad, Sad, Scared, if you want the version a kid would recognize. The basic set this work is built on.
- Tracker / Tracking your X
- A Tracker is someone actively looking for a part of themselves they lost or disowned to survive: a feeling, a piece of their story, a version of them still alive somewhere underneath the one running the show. That lost part is the X. Tracking is going looking for it.
- Worktalk
- A live session built around a specific question or edge, usually a couple hours, meant to open something up rather than close it down.
The Money Question
Why does this cost money? Am I just another guy trying to get rich off other people's suffering? Fair question. Here's my honest answer.
Money is a filter. Not for people who have it, for people who have enough pain about where they're at, and enough want for something different, to actually show up. If it costs nothing, it's easy to not show up. Easy to cancel, stay comfortable, keep circling the same pattern. An exchange changes that.
Think of it as alchemical, not transactional. What you pay isn't for my time. It's the material part of your own commitment, what you're willing to put down to create a different result in your life. The money isn't the point. What it represents is.
What I do isn't therapy. It's also not something I do, it's what I am. I'm the space through which transformation can happen for someone: lowering their numbness bar, feeling more, getting clearer about their feelings and how to actually use them, on purpose.
I didn't invent any of this. I've spent the last 10 years training in different spaces, mostly inside Possibility Management, to be able to hold it for you.